Well, I am a firm believer than friendships are the most important kind of relationship you can have, especially in your 20s. Our friends know us better and sometimes longer than a partner. They know you in ways others don’t, all the embarrassing nights out you've had, the deepest secrets, the fights with your mother, the horrible ways men or women have treated you, the traumatising first dates you have been on, your real laugh, funny sex stories. They know it all. And knowing that a person who you've shared all the sides of you with - even the ones you don’t want your partner to see - is gone from your life, is the hardest and most saddening thing one could endure.
When losing a partner, the first person you go to is a friend, but where do you go when you lose a friend?
When losing a partner, the first person you go to is a friend, but where do you go when you lose a friend? That is why it hurts more, when you lose a partner you have millions of ways to get over that gut-wrenching feeling, whether it is by going out and finding meaningless sex or going through tinder and finding a re-bound (that’s what we tell people who are going through a break-up “don’t worry there is someone out there who will love you the way you deserve to be loved, for now just have fun and forget about them”) But when you lose a friend you can’t just get a part-time friend or a rebound friend, you are stuck with the feeling of being alone. And the worst part is that you can’t have a friend to talk about it with or get you through it. You must once again seek someone who is only interested in you, all sides of you. And that cannot be done through apps it has to be through actual human relationship.