Autumn stands for change, and as the leaves lose their brightness, so do we. October tends to feel different for everybody; we shift, we lose parts of ourselves or gain events we wish did not happen.
This even now has a name for it, the October Canon Event.
The scary colloquialism refers to the time of the year when something changes you. Normally, this is something for which we are not prepared. It has almost become a universal phenomenon that one way or another, we all collectively go through it. Whether it is a breakup, self-discovery, financial strain or emotional fatigue, October has a particular power of guiding us through this pain.
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The spooky month is all too haunting, the lack of light at 4 pm to the pressure of having a perfect Halloween, October gets a little too real. The favourable canon event in October is heartbreak. Romance (or the lack of it…) in October is always hard-hitting due to the amplification of the holidays coming up. Ways in which to recover from the emotional turmoil that is loneliness are to channel the pain into other outlets, one may journaling, creating something beautiful with your heart. Avoid the need to rush into the next downloading of Hinge!
Why not try changing the ways in which you love yourself and go on solo dates or even dye your hair! Rebuild self-love, to fight through the treachery we call winter.
Try creating new routines, ones that prioritise rest, and yes, that means 8+ hours of sleep.
For others, the canon event is falling into unhealthy habits, resulting in emptiness, detachment, and a sense of no direction. Just because the days lose their light does not mean you need to. Try creating new routines, ones that prioritise rest, and yes, that means 8+ hours of sleep. Even activities that require slower movement will give you the opportunity to slow down, not just physically: Try yoga, a walk around Jesmond Dene or cooking soup.
It is imperative that you recognise the effects of the seasonal transition and understand what you enjoyed and which people you will not be speaking to again.
October may have presented as the evil and spooky backstory in your life, but November is the time for the character redemption arc and to take control again.