Here are some signs you might be dating for validation:
The problem with seeking validation through dating is that it creates a cycle of dependence, where your sense of worth relies on others’ approval, giving away your power to define your own value. This could potentially lead to accepting less than you deserve from poor partners, ignoring very obvious red flags and developing anxiety about being alone.
To overcome this need for validation, you need to shift your perspective and practice self-reflection. Spend some time understanding what YOU want, set your own boundaries without any external input, maybe even journal about what makes you feel proud of yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness that you would give to others. Learn to enjoy your own company by developing hobbies that bring you joy independently of others. Evaluate your relationships based on genuine connection, anything that does not enrich your life, get rid.
The problem with seeking validation through dating is that it creates a cycle of dependence, where your sense of worth relies on others’ approval, giving away your power to define your own value.
When you build a strong foundation of self-worth, dating becomes about finding genuine connections rather than validation. Why would you want to be with someone who you don’t really get along with? Relationships are about growth, connection and shared experiences, creating a space where you can be your authentic-self. This is why it is necessary to love yourself completely before you get into a relationship. As Oscar Wilde says ‘to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance’.
So, if you think that you could be valid-dating, take on board my advice and remember, the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself.
