Hi, I’ve just started my first year and I’m having trouble keeping up with my friendships from home. I'm scared that because I was constantly seeing them at home and now we’re so far away that we will lose the friendship we once had. Any advice?
In my first term this was a big worry of mine. I’d gone through school and sixth form with such a close group of friends that I panicked when I got to uni. I was so worried that we would not talk as much and that even if I tried I would that I would not find that same level of friendship with anyone here. And, while it was completely normal for me to feel like this, I did have to remind myself that all of friends from home were in the same boat, they were probably also just as scared as I was about losing them.
Firstly, I would suggest that you talk to your friends from home and express that you miss them and that you are worried about not speaking to them as often. I'm sure that they will be able to reassure you that your friendship hasn't changed and it is the physical distance that is making the gap between you all seem so vast.
I would also bring up to your friends the idea of a fun and light hearted group activity that you guys can do virtually. A few weeks into University my friends and I did a power point evening over zoom where we all presented power points about our first few weeks of University and got to tell each other the questionable things we had all seen or experienced during freshers. Even though we were so far apart from each other it reassured me that nothing had really changed and we were still just as close friends; we just needed to adapt to having more adult friendships.
My overall advice would be to not shut yourself off, whether that be from your old friends or the possibility of making new ones at uni. Your new friendships at University will not be the same as the ones you had at school but that is what makes them so special; you get to experience new things and new stages of your life with brand new people, but you will always have your friends from home and the memories you had with them. And as they always say absence makes the heart grow fonder, you will most likely find that when you're back home for Christmas it will feel as if you have never left each other.