A lot of the time it’s easy to fall into the routine of friendly, casual sex with someone. No commitment, no label, no demands - a physical relationship which exists simply to give one another a helping hand (if you catch my meaning…)! Sounds pretty ideal, right?
No commitment, no label, no demands
Right. That is, as long as you stick to the (admittedly somewhat blurry) rules and regulations of casual hookups. But this is made a lot harder if this particular person is a part of your wider friendship group. Makes going out for drinks at the weekend a wee bit more awkward if two of you are pretending you didn’t wake up together six hours earlier. And best believe you aren’t being as secretive and sneaky as you think - at least one of your mates is well aware of what’s going on. Probably all of them.
At least one of your mates is well aware of what's going on. Probably all of them.
Now, in regards to what these rules and regulations are, the most important has to be that feelings remain out of the equation. If you end up asking your mutual friends for all the gossip from the night out they were on, secretly hoping their name will be brought up, and you can be reassured they didn’t get with anyone else, then I’m not sure ‘friendly’ is still applicable. It’s vital to not fall into the trap of caring about what they’re up to when the two of you aren’t together, as if it’s nothing more than friendly sex, why would you be bothered?
If you’re capable of keeping it chill and friendly then by all means, go for it. But once you start checking snap maps, getting upset when you see them chatting to someone else on a night out, or waiting for their texts - my advice would be to remove yourself from the situation. Especially if the other person is more than fine with it just being friendly sex. Not to mention how messy it can get for the rest of the friend group if something goes too badly wrong, and you end up unable to stand the mere presence of the person you were adamant you could handle friends with benefits with.