Whether you’re completely heartbroken or relieved that it is over, a process needs to be followed regardless. Luckily for you, I have put together some tips to guide you through this. The thinking is done, you just have to tick each off the list!
Be honest with yourself and the situation. You have already broken up and that is in the past. You now need to face the present and work towards your future. Ultimately, you can’t start healing unless you accept this.
Out with the old and in with the new - this does not mean chucking everything your ex touched in your room! If you can’t deal with it right now, simply pick up a box and put anything that reminds you of them inside of it. Then store it away or give it to someone you can trust. However, if the shoe fits, you can chuck it in the bin!
As Lorelai Gilmore advises, you need to give yourself space to wallow, or what Gen Zs are calling it, rot. Order pizza, cry, eat ice cream, cry. With time there will be a point where you can get up and get outside!
When you are ready, reach out to some friends or ask someone you’ve always wanted to befriend out for a coffee or a drink! Making or rekindling friendships will help your heart heal as you will be reminded that there is a life beyond your ex.
University is the perfect place for this, so seize the opportunity. Go to the Societies Fair and sign up for something you have never done before. You will meet new people and learn a new skill.
Remember, this feeling will pass, and you will move on.
