You might swap numbers or add each other on Snapchat, thinking it’s innocent. But eventually the messages, facetimes and coffee ‘dates’ you swear mean nothing cumulate in the dreaded ‘f’ word: feelings. Even worse, more often than not, only one person will be lumbered with them, and the last thing you want is to get attached to someone you were never really that bothered about in the first place.
‘Dates’ you swear mean nothing cumulate in the dreaded ‘f’ word: feelings
Since the bubble of no strings attached sex is so delicate, a good idea is to establish ground rules, because even the most casual of sexcapades require some effort. One of the key rules, in my humble opinion, is to keep it light.
Nobody wants to be that person religiously stalking the socials and snap maps
By ensuring deep conversations about how you’re coping with your parents divorce or various childhood traumas that still affect you today are kept to a minimum (ideally not had at all) the connection is purely physical and the casual sex remains… well, casual. It’s easy to get caught up in the thrill of casual hookups, but once feelings are involved it becomes borderline impossible to remain calm and collected. And let's be honest nobody wants to be that person religiously stalking the socials and snap maps of someone they’ve known for a grand total of two weeks.
Intimacy eliminates casualness
The honest truth? One night stands provide the novelty of strings being out of the question; a fun, flirty night and nothing more. But if you linger the next day and before you know it you’ve spent hours in bed, cuddling and watching Friends, this kind of intimacy eliminates casualness. Cut to a week later and you find yourself glancing at your phone every 30 seconds, hoping their name pops up. I’m all for no strings attached if you think you can handle it, but do it at your own risk!
