As far back as childhood building a family is pushed as the ultimate lifegoal. Especially for young girls, marriage and children is centred as the trophy of a successful life. Even for boys, successful men in the media are presented as having a loving partner to return home to after a day at work. Having this ideology pushed from as far back as childhood makes it understandable as to why relationships are often prioritised over the individual's career.
Being committed to and focused on a relationship could be responsible for the blurring of individual goals and aspirations. Yes, daydreaming of your ideal wedding is preferable over imagining an impending workload, but melting into your partner's goals should be avoided. Of course, seeing your partner's ambitions (career or otherwise) materialised is fulfilling to some extent, it's just unfortunate for some that their own priorities take a back seat in light of this, whether it is intentional or not.
Be selfish; it is much healthier to build on your relationship around your work than to let your individuality suffer in favour of date nights or their success.
The most obvious step in navigating personal career goals alongside a relationship is first to identify the dreams that you have individually. Any good partner will be supportive, but don't fall into relying on their support to strive towards what it is you're working on. Be selfish; it is much healthier to build on your relationship around your work than to let your individuality suffer in favour of date nights or their success. It should not be any harm either to not include your partner in progress with work. Advancements or career opportunities should maybe be discussed depending on the dynamic of your relationship, but they need not be debated if you feel it's best for yourself. Your career is for you, and should not suffer from the influence of others.
Even during difficult times in relationships, work you enjoy can be healthy to avoid falling into worry about your partner. That's not to say that your career should be the only escape or source of happiness because that could nurture some unhealthy working attitudes, but it has the potential to be a welcome distraction. At the end of the day, you should be putting your goals first to make yourself proud before you stress about pleasing anybody else.