I’m almost certain that whoever coined ‘the one’ found their high school sweetheart when they were about 13 and never looked back from there. The concept of ‘the one’ is a myth completely. Believing that there is only ‘one’ person who is right for you is focusing way too much on trying to cement a romantic relationship and ultimately, it’s adding too much pressure to pick a partner just for the sake of having one.
But it's not all doom and gloom. I wholeheartedly believe that soulmates do exist, just maybe not in the way that you might be thinking. If you shift your focus from romance and open your heart to platonic relationships its likely you might already have some strong contenders for a soulmate. Maybe it's your best friend whose sentences you always manage to finish, or maybe it's your nanna who always knows when it's time to put the kettle on. Better yet, by this logic, you can abolish the myth of ‘the one’ and have as many soulmates as you like.
It would be lovely to believe that romantic soulmates exist, and maybe I'll believe it when i see it but for now it seems so unlikely that anyone would actually find theirs. Think of all the people who ever lived and all the places they might have spent their time- it'd be a wonder if any of these destined pairs actually ever crossed paths. This logic though, is perfect for dreamers like me who can now feel as though their soulmate could’ve been their favourite late rockstar-namely Jim Morrison- should fate have allowed it.
And finally, the only exception to the myth that i can agree with: if you seek to find your one true love- look not those around you, who you may meet in sticky bars or crowded lecture halls, but within to the one and only soul that can ever know what you truly desire. Or, in simpler terms: if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?