It’s reasonably common knowledge that long distance relationships have a bad reputation for being almost impossible. Often, this is because they are hard work, and require striking the perfect balance between seeing each other enough while also having lives that aren’t as intertwined as those who live closer together.
You may be someone whose relationship has always involved quite some distance or, more likely, someone who has moved away from their partner and now can’t benefit from things ‘normal’ couples do. It can be especially difficult if it takes quite some time to travel to one another. No matter the circumstances, here are some tips on how you can navigate a long distance relationship.
Firstly, don’t force yourself to stay with someone that you cannot trust. Although this applies to all relationships, trying to learn to trust someone whilst living so far from them can prove to be quite stressful. This is why it is important that you fully trust them, so that the communication between you both can be clear and not muddied with feelings of distrust.
Because you don’t see each other in person every day, it can be hard to feel connected. This is where communication really is your best friend. Make some time to phone each other, be that every evening for a quick catch-up, or a long video chat on the weekends. Even sending each other little texts throughout the day when you see little things that remind you of them can really help keep your bond strong. Not everybody is good at texting all the time, but small gestures and allotting time for each other really helps keep the communication flowing. Similarly, make sure you know when your next in person meet up is. Whether that’s in a few days, weeks, or months, having this to look forward to always helps, as it solidifies that you will be with them once again.
Always make sure that you have a little piece of them with you at all times, too. This could be a photo of them on your lock screen, a trinket they gave you, a teddy they bought you, anything as a reminder that they are close by - even if not physically. It can be comforting to have these items around you, especially if you are struggling.
Finally, try not to let other people’s opinions infiltrate your relationship. It is nobody’s place to tell you that you shouldn’t be with someone because they live far away. Although it is difficult to ignore, somebody else’s long distance experiences will not necessarily happen to you. Every person is different, and so is every relationship. As long as you love and trust your partner, there should be no reason you shouldn’t put in that extra work to stay with them, especially not from someone who isn’t involved in your relationship.