As couples always do, we talk about our future, and the idea of staying in the UK. This has become the biggest challenge for me, because me and my family were all thinking that I will be going back to Taiwan when I graduate. Telling my family, I would like to stay in the UK after graduation is a massive decision, and it also means that I won’t be able to see my 90-year-old grandfather who basically raised me.
As couples always do, we talk about our future, and the idea of staying in the UK
Apart from my family, some of my friends and my partner’s friends would question our relationship. Questions like “how are you guys going to do after one year?”, “are you sure you are able to stay in the UK to find a job?” and “don’t drag yourself into this unstable relationship too much, in case it doesn’t work out”. Every time I heard these sorts of questions, I felt a sense of insecurity and fear that those questions will shake us.
My boyfriend and I are planning go to Taiwan together this September to visit my family and friends. As we plan, I will stay a bit longer than him for time with my family, and I remember he said “why do I feel like if you don't come back with me, you won't come back?” This really makes me feel helpless and heartbroken. It feels like our relationship has many uncertainties, and that realistic conditions are going to break us.
I’m still really looking forward to our bright future
Even though I try to look on the bright side, I am so excited to show him around the place I grew up and introduce him to my best friend. I’m still really looking forward to our bright future, and getting to live in the UK to start the next stage of our relationship. I know I can’t make everyone happy or force my family to support us. For now, we can just enjoy our time together and be well-prepared for the coming future.