It can feel easy to feel stuck in a relationship, particularly at university where you share everything: the same friends, the same classes and potentially even the same house. With such close proximity, it can be extremely upsetting when your relationship starts going south. If you’ve built your whole social life around your partner, it’s understandable to put off breaking up with someone until you’ve graduated, or you don’t have to see them regularly. But the truth is that sometimes refusing to break up with your partner can do more damage than staying with them for safety.
it can be extremely upsetting when your relationship starts going south.
University is an intrinsically important part of your life for socialisation, and even romance. In fact, approximately 1/3 of university students meet a long-term partner whilst at university. While it can be comforting to be in a relationship at university, it’s important to look for the right one. There’s no point wasting time with someone who you know you don’t want to stay with if there’s a chance of finding someone else who you might spend the rest of your life with.
There’s a lot of pressure to find the one...
Yes, being in the same place with an ex can be awkward, but it could be a great step to help both of you move forward. More time spent actually going out (rather than spending awkward nights in), more time with friends, more time exploring the city before you leave. There’s no point in letting bad feelings fester when you have all the time in the world to settle down. There’s a lot of pressure to find the one, but this might not always need to be the case; in fact, the average age to find your spouse is at twenty seven. That’s about another five years of looking before you settle down. All the more reason to let that slightly too clingy partner go in the hopes of finding something new.
Besides, better to have broken up in time for summer clubbing outfits than not at all, right?