There is no doubt that society is becoming more open about sexuality, which is often reflected on our TV screens. Netflix’s You has perhaps been one of the most raunchy on our screens in recent times, along with others such as Game of Thrones and Bridgerton. So it is interesting that the lead actor for You, Penn Badgley, recently stated that he would like to reduce the number of intimate scenes he has out of respect for his wife and their relationship. Obviously, it is important to respect people’s boundaries and consent is always key to any scene that involves sex. But Badgley’s take on intimate scenes has raised a key question about where boundaries are drawn with sex and TV. Viewers will inevitably get some gratification from intimate scenes because they are supposed to be tantalising - but is it correct to associate them with some form of cheating?
Social media has been ablaze with differing opinions, with some stating that Badgley’s comments are unprofessional whilst others are praising him for the respect he is showing for his relationship. These boundaries should always be respected no matter what, but there is no reason why married actors should shun doing intimate scenes. There is obviously a fine balance to be had, meaning the set should be safe and coordinated, but intimate scenes should be viewed like any others on TV - the key thing is that consent is always given.
What this debate shows is the value of intimacy coordinators on TV sets, whose jobs are to protect the boundaries of actors whilst enabling the director’s vision. In an environment where historically actors have been pressured into acts they are uncomfortable with, intimacy coordinators provide vital work and every set should have one. A positive intimate scene should invite agreement and consent in all areas, meaning that any that are filmed can be open, creative, and safe for all.
