Whilst this chance to celebrate your mother is a fun time for many, Mother's Day can also be a painful reminder of something missing in your life.
For those whose mothers weren’t quite Molly Weasley, Mother’s Day has always looked more like finding your handmade cards in the bin the next day, and an argument about cluttering up the house. Or maybe even no mother to go home to, sat quietly in a classroom whilst everyone else messily paints their favourite mum and daughter day out. If you’ve lived through times like that once, chances are you’ve found yourself reliving it again and again in counselling sessions which are burning through your student loan.
As annoying as you may find this holiday, perhaps this year it can be the inspiration you need to get rid of some of those pesky mummy issues. How about celebrating another maternal figure in your life, a teacher, or a godparent? Or perhaps even set some time aside for a mum themed double-page diary spread, WHSmith’s stickers and all. Either way, the day doesn’t have to be wasted in your room seething over peoples adorable Instagram posts at bottomless brunch with Mumsy.
Whilst having problems with your mum can feel isolating sometimes, there are a wealth of resources and chatty friends that can help you feel less alone. And if all that seems too daunting, public figures like Jennette McCurdy and Leighton Meester have some great talks and books on getting over that familiar screaming voice in your head, day-by-day.
Sometimes it can feel like having those formative years of your life disrupted was poisonous, like it taints your future with a pervasive coldness. But remember that your mother is and was just a woman, and she can’t live in your head forever. Perhaps this mother’s day you'll pluck up the courage to hand her an eviction notice, perhaps not. Either way, someday, she’ll get bored with all the negativity, and move right out.
